First, let me ask you guys something when you go out with your friends how many of you tell 100% truth to your parents about where you are going and with whom you are going?
Everyone tells the truth if they are just going to eat street food with the same old friends but mostly no one likes to tell anything to their parents anything if they are going partying or going out with their girlfriends/boyfriends. Some teens don’t even bother to tell the truth about where they are going.
And why is that? Don’t even think I am going to compare Indian parents to other country’s parents because firstly every country has their own different and unique cultures. And secondly, it depends on the people if they want to follow the culture, not because they don’t want to but because they don’t see the need to follow them.
But if I say, then time is changing and we all know that change is life. Things must change for life to move on. And the same goes for people. People have to change to live a more pleasant life.
All this is because I want you to understand the real reason why teenagers don’t like to talk about their problems with their parents. It’s not like they are only afraid that they will be scolded or beaten up because of their mistakes but they are afraid that their parents will think less of them.
If we talk about teens fault then yes it is their fault that they don’t like to share “things” about their life with their parents even if their parents are understanding or they want to understand more about their child’s life but they don’t know that since everything is going fine their child is on cloud 9 and doesn’t think that their own family needs to know anything. But the minute something goes wrong they start blaming their parents that, they don’t understand them and that’s why they don’t like to share their problems.
It’s all the mistakes that teens do to end up pissing their families off.
Now if we talk about parents then yes it’s their fault too. Because why not?
What if they just listened to their kids and not get hyper about the mistakes they did. Because being hyper about it would not change anything. It will only make the situation more tensed and also next time when their kids would mess up something they would not even dare to tell their parents about it.
Also if their kids have no idea what to do to mend their mistakes then it will only make the situation worse than it already was. It would be so easy for them if their parents just listened to them and help them get through the situation.
All this would might not even happen if their parents would just be little frank with their kids to talk about stuff they don’t know and should know about before they find it on their own and make any mistake.
Also, parents should be a little open-minded about some things like
One’s clothes- Because it does not justify someone’s character. If a girl is wearing traditional clothes, it doesn’t always mean she is ‘sanskari’ and if she is wearing modern clothes then she is a ‘slut’. Let your daughter decide what she wants to wear. If a society judges girls on their clothes and can’t see them in even a crop top then they should also see the ‘6-inch kamar’ which is revealed in a saree or the backless blouse of a saree. Also, don’t forget the suits with deep necks with just a net dupatta over them.
I am not making you count the flaws in traditional clothes. Because it depends on the woman how she carries it. And only this makes the difference.
Guy friends and girl-friends(not girlfriends)- Some parents are conservative of their kids that they don’t even allow their daughters to have a guy friend or their sons to have a girlfriend. This is a world and some people are boys, girls, or others. They should have the right to talk to whoever they want.
And also having a relationship is not a bad thing. At least make sure you know about that so that if something bad is coming you can warn them.
Look it’s 20 century and you know, I know that even if you try your best, your kids are gonna do what they want to do. Either in front of you or behind your back. So why not confront your kids and teach them about the things they should know before it’s too late. Why not try understanding your kids for once.
Make them trust you soo much that they can share stuff about their life without any fear or judgment from their parents. Most teens try to find love outside when they don’t get that love from their own families.
Try and be cool with your kids. Teach them about stuff you know and learn together about stuff you both don’t know. Don’t compare them with others because everyone is unique in their way. Well, they have your genes after all. Understand them for once then make them understand your situation. I know some places are not meant to wear short dresses or talking to girl or guy friends in public because of the mentality of some people but don’t let others opinion bother your life.
Life is short don’t waste it while being all cold or sad about stuff you can’t do anything about.
And you youngsters, yes you, I am talking to you. Be a little humble to your parents too and try understanding their situations. Everything is not always about you. Change takes time so ‘Thoda vo the smjhe to thoda tum bhi unhe smjho’.